The difference between Counselling and Coaching

I consider counselling and coaching to be very different from each other as I do person centered counselling.
In coaching, often I hear a client say something in a way that disemopwers him/her and I recommend more empowering language to express that thought. I provide processes, information and systems for you to be empowered. I also guide you in creating goals, action plans etc and assist you in being accountable for taking the action steps that you commit to taking.
In counselling, I am committed to simply providing the safe space for you to explore your own thoughts and feelings and I actively listen rather than providing direction. I admit that I am often tempted to coach during a counselling session however I usually don't do so because it would make the counselling less effective.
I am often thanked for the advice I have given in a counselling session even though I have not actually given any advice. The client has simply advised himself/herself.

I feel like killing him

"I feel like killing him" the man said to his wife as he talked with her about the frustration he was feeling. He worked in the family business and his father had yet again overrode the instructions he had given to some of the employees in that business. His wife was shocked to discover her husband was feeling so violent and became fearful that her husband may harm his dad. Doing the best she knew how at the time, she told him to control his anger. Over the years the man and his wife's marriage continued to deteriorate.
The man could benefit from counselling by having a safe place to be supported while he expresses his emotions. He knows that he can scream. He knows that he can say anything he feels like saying. As a counsellor I am totally willing for my client to yell, scream, just be silent or to cry. I am committed to having unconditional positive regard for the client, and to not judge him. With empathy, I can be fully present. I may reflect what I observe. Facial expression or what I heard him say. He can feel heard and listened to. He can feel safe. He can when he is ready, explore that anger that he feels. Or he can speak about how he feels alone in his wife's company even though he knows that she loves him and cares for him.

Keeping client information confidential

Counselling is most effective if the client does not withhold information from the counsellor. My clients need to know that I will not tell anybody, so they can feel safe to open up to me. I am committed to confidentality. To avoid the risk of disclosure I refrain from taking notes during sessions and regard any record keeping as the client's responsibility. In fact I really do forget most of what goes on in a session. If something does come up for me during the session I will get cleared as soon as possible after the session. I may enlist the services of another counsellor to do that however I only disclose my own feelings and thoughts to my counsellor, not those my client. Having that clearing allows me to put the past in the past where it belongs. I can be fully in the present moment and feel no need to recall what went on in my sessions with my clients.